Kindness matters more than perfection.
Mother’s Day can be full of flowers, cards, and brunches—but for many, it’s a deeply complicated, even painful day. If someone you love has experienced a miscarriage, Mother’s Day can quietly reopen a wound they carry every day of the year.
They may not say anything. They might still smile. But in their hearts, they are grieving. And it’s during this kind of quiet ache that your care can mean everything.
At Written Hugs Designs, we believe in saying the hard things with honesty and heart. And sometimes, it’s not about saying the “right” thing—it’s about simply showing up with tenderness.
Here’s how you can support someone who has lost a pregnancy this Mother’s Day:
1. Acknowledge Their Motherhood
They are still a mother. Even if the world doesn’t see it, even if no one else speaks their baby’s name—they do. You can say, gently:
- “I’m thinking of you today and honoring the little one you carried.”
- “You are a mother, and I see you.”
- “I know today may be hard. I’m holding space for you.”
A simple message of recognition is often the most powerful gift you can give.
2. Offer a Card or Small Gesture
Something tangible—a handwritten card, a small bouquet, a candle—can be a beautiful way to say, I see your grief, and I’m not afraid of it. Consider sending one of our gentle grief and loss cards designed to wrap hurting hearts in comfort.
3. Make Space, Without Expectation
Don’t pressure them to “celebrate” or attend events that might be painful. Offer space and grace. Let them know it’s okay to protect their heart that day.
You might say:
- “If you need to skip the gathering this weekend, please do. I understand.”
- “I’m here for whatever you need that day—or for nothing at all.”
4. Be a Safe Place
If they want to talk, listen without trying to fix. If they want silence, don’t fill it. Be someone who allows grief to exist without judgment or timeline. Practice being present. Just being present with them.
5. Remember Their Loss in the Future
Mother’s Day isn’t the only day their heart aches. Mark your calendar for their due date, or the day they experienced their loss, and reach out then too. Your thoughtfulness will be remembered long after the flowers fade.
Grief after miscarriage is real. It’s deep. And it’s often invisible. But when we show up in gentle, consistent ways, we remind those we love: you are not alone, even in this.
If you’re looking for the right words to offer this Mother’s Day, let us help. Our mission is to create cards that feel like a hug—because we believe every loss deserves tenderness, and every heart deserves to feel seen.
