Mother’s Day can be one of the hardest days of the year for a mom who is grieving the loss of a child. While the world celebrates with flowers, cards, and breakfasts in bed, she may feel like she’s barely holding it together—carrying a love that has nowhere to land, missing someone who should still be here.
At Written Hugs Designs, we believe that no one should feel forgotten or alone in their grief—especially not on a day that honors the role she still holds in her heart. Whether her child was lost in pregnancy, infancy, childhood, or adulthood, she is and always will be their mother.
If you’re wondering how to support a grieving mom on Mother’s Day, here are some gentle ways to show up with empathy, care, and love:
1. Acknowledge Her Motherhood
Grief can be incredibly isolating, especially when people don’t know what to say. One of the most powerful things you can do is simply recognize that she is still a mother. Send her a message, a card, or say something like:
“Thinking of you today and honoring the incredible mom you are. Be extra gentle with yourself today.”
This small gesture can be a balm for a heart that often feels unseen.
2. Say Their Child’s Name
There is nothing sweeter to a grieving mother than hearing her child’s name spoken aloud or written in ink. Don’t be afraid to bring them up. You won’t be “reminding” her of her loss—she never forgets. But you will remind her that her child mattered and is remembered.
3. Send a Card That Speaks Her Language
Traditional Mother’s Day cards often miss the mark for moms who are grieving. That’s why we’ve created cards with tenderness, honesty, and real understanding—cards that feel like a hug when she needs it most.
Loss of Child on Mother’s Day Card
Loss of Child on Mother’s Day Card
Both Joyful and Sorrowful Mother’s Day Card
4. Let Her Lead
Some moms want to talk about their child on Mother’s Day. Others want space and quiet. Let her set the tone. You can gently ask:
“I’m thinking of you and your sweet [child’s name] today. Would it feel comforting to share a memory, or would you prefer some quiet love from afar?”
Giving her control over how she engages with the day honors her grief and her healing.
5. Offer Practical Support or Gentle Distraction
Grief is heavy, especially on days filled with expectations. You might offer to drop off a meal, go for a quiet walk together, or help with errands. Or, if distraction feels right, invite her to do something that doesn’t center on the holiday—like visiting a peaceful nature spot or watching a comforting movie.
6. Remember Her Beyond This Day
Grief doesn’t end when the calendar page turns. Mark her child’s birthday or anniversary of their passing in your own calendar. A small note or text on those days can make a world of difference. Let her know you’re still walking beside her, even months later.
Because Grief and Love Are Intertwined
To the mama whose arms ache for the child she can’t hold: we see you, we honor you, and we carry your heartbreak gently in our hearts today. Mother’s Day may never look like it used to—but your motherhood, your love, and your bond with your child are sacred.
If you’re looking for a way to express that love to someone grieving, we invite you to browse our handwritten card collection or let us help you find the words when they’re too hard to say.
